PATRICIA EZECHIE 
Coaching & Consultancy

We spend much of our lives adapting to the environments around us. Most of the time that adaptation is intelligent, necessary and often invisible. The challenge comes when we become so used to fitting in that we lose sight of who we are underneath it. This article explores the hidden cost of adaptation, belonging and the gradual distance that can develop between who we are and how we show up in the world.

Conversation around careers tend to focus on individual action. Set goals. Build confidence. Develop resilience. Improve performance. And while all of those things have value, they can unintentionally encourage us to see every challenge as an individual problem requiring an individual solution. But sometimes the more useful question is: What am I responding to? What signals am I receiving every day? What feels supported here? What feels constrained? Where do I feel most lik

Many people think they have a career problem, when what they’re really experiencing is something much deeper: a growing gap between who they are, how they’re living, and the way they experience themselves through work.

When people feel stuck in their career, it’s often not because they don’t have options. It’s because the options in front of them don’t feel certain enough. We’re used to thinking of decisions as something you make once you’ve worked everything out. Once you’ve gathered enough information, weighed up the pros and cons, and reached a point of confidence. But in reality, most meaningful decisions don’t come with that level of certainty.